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New Members

We have 45 new members of our family. Yeah I have been busy, haha. Cody got a fish tank. Equip with guppies and alge eaters. It's a 10 gallon tank. I already know I will be the one cleaning it. It smells. But we all enjoy them.

Family Time

We spent some time with my sis-in-law this weekend. Well she his Cody's dads sister but I am closer to her than he is. And my nephew, same age as Cody. We went to Six Flags. We love that place. This time Sue got to go...we were also celebrating her 4yrs clean. It was fun...I rode the Titan, with Sue. This ride is 288ft in the air and goes 88mph with a free fall and lots of turns. It is impossible to get a pic while on the ride, it goes so fast. It was a great day.
I go see my atty tomorrow to get the ball rolling on the Cody matter. Hope he has good things to say. I will keep you all posted.
Not much else...scouts and soccer. Cody has his first game the 6th this will be funny.

Friday At Last

I Tried

Well I wanted to post the video I took of Cody after the dentist. But that You Tube is a pain in the *#@...so maybe another time. He did real good. They worked on his mouth for 45mins, it was hard for him to stay still. The sedation took a minute to wear off but like all boys he is back to full force.
I want to thank you all again for the support and kind words. Things have calm down a bit. His dad hasn't yelled or given any threats to take him back at this point. But I don't put anything past him.
Ok till next time.

Tid Bit Tuesday

I would like to thank you all for your wonderful words in regards to my upcoming battle. I am starting to get scared.
Yesterday I watched Lifetime movies all day and there were alot that dealt with custody and the best intrest of the child. I was talking to my sis yesterday and I was telling her I wont be able to handle if this all went the other way and his dad got him. But I think the choice to better my son's life is the right choice. We are strong and have been through alot worse.
I also wanted to add, and this is strictly for those in recovery and for those that have been down a road of heavy addiction. It would take more than this to get me to relapse. The thought of escaping to drugs just makes me sick to my stomach. S, my g/f, asked me if I felt the need use, nope. I have family and some great friends to get me thru this.
Ok on a lighter note. C has a pack meeting tonight, he is getting his fishing patch, due to all his fishing with my bro-in-law. Yeah for him. He also has another dentist appt. they are going to knock him out, I will so get a pic of him all gruggy, it's funny.

The Battle Begins

I don't know where to begin. Let me start by saying this is gonna get ugly.

See I have my son with me now. While I was in prison Cody was with his dad, prior to that he was with both of us. When I got out I would go see Cody on the weekends. I had to go there on my own, and that wasn't easy. If it wasn't for my family and friends I wouldn't have made it. Cody's dad doesn't like me, if fact he hates me. So he did not care if I came or not. But Cody needed me there. And nothing was going to prevent me from going. After about three months of back and forth it was getting old, I needed to be with my son. And as luck would have it his dad needed me to keep Cody. He ws going to work in another state. So I got my son. Now let me explain. I have custody of Cody but his dad has primary custody. A mistake I made a long time ago. So Cody came to me. I got him in school. I had to basically start all over. His dad sent him with nothing, a bag of clothes and some books. Now dont get me wrong he is a good dad, but due to his hating me Cody missed out on alot. Cody never played with kids, never interacted with anyone but his dad. He went to school and that was about it. That was a good thing when it came to Cody's education. That payed off. Ok so where am I. I made the best life I could for Cody. My girlfriend has us move in with her, she had a room all ready for Cody. School was going great. We got him in scouts, he started making friends. He is growing.

Well things have been good. I get state asst. for Cody, and we do very well. His dad sends a check every week that hardly covers the childs food bill, but we do it. When I filed for asst. the state opened a child support case. His dad hated that. But we have been dealing with it. We will have a court date soon on that.

Sue, Cody and I want to move to Mt. and at this time I can't leave the state with Cody. Actually I have to live within a 100 miles of his dad, but he is the one who moved so far so I am not in violation of our divorce decree. So I came up with a easy out for his dad. I can cancel all Cody's benefits and the state will withdrawl their order on the child support. I will take care of Cody myself. So this morning when his dad dropped Cody off from theie visit I presented him the idea. I am lucky to still have Cody right now. He almost took him to KS. He acted as if I was taking Cody to India. I told him I would make sure Cody gets to him once a month, more than he sees him now. Any holiday he wants him. But he just wasn't listening. His dad looked Cody right in the eye and told him they were leaving for KS. My son lost it. He started crying and running towards me, he wouldn't let go of me. Cody told his dad he didn't want to go and that is was fine right were he was. My child begged his dad not to make him live with him. Is there something wrong there? Please don't take me as some evil woman, but I tryed being nice, now I am going legal.
We have a court date sometime in November for the child support, I am going to have to be ready then cause I know this man, he will take my kid right then, just to get out of paying child support.

I can't lose my child. I have made mistakes and not to pass judgement, but his dad was right there with me doing the drugs. But it was me who put myself where I was. And only I can change my life. But I will not let my son down. He wants to stay with me, and I will make that happen.

Can You Spell H.A.R.D

Ok I had to show yall this...

The first week of school no homework, then the second week spelling words. Now they were easy words, just refreshing their memory. But this week was down to buisness. These are Cody's spelling words for this week. Guys I can't even spell some of these. And he has to put these words in a sentence.
I guess 2nd grade is different these days.

Keep or Toss

I went to put something in Cody's closet and OMG I got ate by animals, not real but stuffed. This child keeps everything. Not only were there stuffed animals but toys and rocks and just stuff. So I cleaned it out. Now the real test is to keep it or just donate it to Goodwill. I doubt if Cody will notice that they are gone but I will hold on to all of it for a little bit. I will give it a month and if he doesn't mention them, they are gone.

Not much to say. I made my first batch of beans in my new croc pot. We will try them this evening. Ok have a great day all.

Remember Then

I am so late posting this blog...but it has been one of those days.

We put our flag out every morning, part of Cody's requirments for scouts, but today was extra special. To pay tribute to all those who lost their lives and those who help in the Twin Towers diaster. Cody kinda gets what happened, but I am sure as years go by he will understand the seriuosness of it.

Thank you all.

Monday

Well my honey didn't have to work last night so she got to sleep at the same time I did, so she is up with me today. We had breakfast together and get to spend the day together. She is watching some army movie and then we will both head out to get some things done. I need to go get a trap to catch some varments, they are attacking my cat. They also like to carry her food bowl off and hide it. So bye bye.

Cody is starting to get a cold. He is no fun sick. Maybe him not feeling good will keep him from talking in class. We'll see. Not much to say, have a good Monday.

Hey don't forget to hang your flags tomorrow, 9/11.

Birthday Girl

Today is my girlfriends B-day...Happy Birthday Sue! We went to breakfast, she didn't want me to cook. And then went and got a few things...now it is a peaceful day at home.

Slave Boy

Well Cody has been doing pretty good at school. And our system at home has been working out. But yesterday at school he got in trouble for talking, go figure. He is a chatter box. He will not shut up. Even at home. Sometimes it gets to be too much for me. And I am a talker. So today I have a slave. First he is grounded to his room, no TV, no playing, etc. But on top of that he has lots of chores. I am not going to lift a finger today. And we have alot do to.

Tomorrow is my girlfriends birthday and she will actually be home from work. Cody and I will make her breakfast and then do the gift thing. We are going to cook her dinner instead of going out. She is kinda not looking forward to her b-day. I don't know why, she isn't that old. I want all of us to go to the park and get away from all the stuff at home. Just us spending time and enjoying life. After all Life is Good.

TGIF

It's the weekend...yeah!

Mmmmmm

Not much going on today. We payed some bills and ran some errands. Got my new phone today, they transfered all my info for me I only had to download my music.

Our new sticker system seems to be working for Cody. He has been super the last few days, hope this keeps up. He has been on a toy restriction for 3 weeks, can't but any toys. He has saved up alot of money...he will blow it all this weekend when he gets off restriction.

Well till next time.

Hump Day

My girlfriend gave me her cold, isn't that so nice of her. I started feeling like crap yesterday and of course I had much to do. I went to bed last night at midnight and just woke up at 11:30, yes lazy. I seem to have stopped my cold from progressing,thanks to Zicam, and am feeling a bit better. I am going to take it easy today.

Oh let me tell you something. Cody has been a royal ?@# these days. He knows everything, wants everything, and seems to think we have to get it for him. OMG! So we came up with this idea. First at school they bring home a folder everyday that is marked with how they day went. Green for good day, yellow for warning, purple for not so good, and red for yuck day. So far all greens since school started. Ok so when he comes home from school he marks the calender we have on the wall for him. Now what we started at home is before he goes to bed he gets to mark the calender for his behavior at home...(sticker). If he has every week marked with a sticker he gets his allowence. If one day is stickerless he gets no allowence. And if more than one day are stickerless the restriction gets worse. He really likes the fact that he sees all stickers. So far it is working. I have faith.

The house is coming along nice. Still alot of work to go. I am so ready to paint and see the final outcome.

Time To Journal

Well I have been slacking on blogging cause I just had nothing to blog about. But after talking to my sis and M I realized that this blog is for me. I was only putting things on my blog that I thought people would be interested in. I have so many thoughts in my head and not very able to get them out. So as time progresses, I hope to write them. In a course of one day I can reflect on alot that has happened in my life. Good and bad. And just getting them out would help.

Today I have been playing catch up. I was gone over the weekend visiting my sister in law and nephew. We went to Six Flags, had a great time. And got up on all that has happened. While I was away on my "vacation", Cody didn't get to see them much. Guess that was always my job. Anyway, we had a good time. Then when I got home my girlfriend was still working on the house, alot of dirty work. Replaced the hot water tank, and put siding on the house. So I got to clean up all that mess. But things are back to normal now. Still more work to go.

I had to run alot of errands. Have to get a new phone, it's under warranty so that is free. And grocery shop. I am going to rest now.

Life Is Good